Every time I try to touch my husband anywhere else than his penis when we are having sex, he directs me back to his penis. It’s like a magnetic rod.
WIFE
The penis is not the most sensitive part of the body for psychasm. It is the most important part of the body for ejaculation, and you have already learned the difference.
One of my paraplegic patients reported, “I know now that I never really came, not like this. I have a neckasm now. She licks the side of my neck and it’s rocket city!”
This patient’s report is on videoptape, and when I show it during my lectures to medical students, I notice some of the males moving their hands to their necks in disbelief. The women nod in agreement. Usually, a physician will say, “This is impossible.” When I ask in turn if it is not true that orgasm is neurologically different from ejaculation, they agree, but the psychological factors of sex are not taught in most medical schools’ curricula.
I receive hundreds of letters following my lectures. While most are positive, some husbands write with anger. One man wrote, “You have ruined everything. I had a good thing going. Now she asks how I feel, what is happening, all kinds of questions. She wants me to have a fingergasm or something. Let me tell you something, Dr. Pearsall, I was in the navy and ten thousand sailors can’t be wrong.” The point is that ten thousand sailors can be wrong, very wrong. It was not long ago that army and navy training films taught that sexually transmissible disease was carried by immoral women to victimized men. It seems that men are either victims of women, totally responsible for sex with them, miserable failures when compared to female response capacity, or generally oversexed. We fail to be real benefactors in mutual intimacy when we embrace the phallocentrism of the early perspectives of human sexuality.
Men still go to massage parlors for “local massage.” One man
reported, “I couldn’t believe I could get taken like that. I went in to get a massage, you know, and that is what I got. A damned massage. She didn’t touch my cock once. All I got was this hour-long touching all over me. She didn’t even speak English. I asked her once if she touched genitals. She said yes, but she had been massaging mostly Jews lately. What a rip-off.” Men rip themselves off when they believe that sexual feelings focus or even originate in vascular and muscular genital response.
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